20 Things I’ve Learned by 20!

Well, it’s my BIRTHDAY! YAY! I thought it would be fun to begin a new tradition surrounding this specific time each year. This post is filled with 20 different things I have learned in my 20 years. Some of them are important life lessons while others are quirky things I know I couldn’t live without knowing. Since this will become an annual tradition it will be quite interesting to compare my answers each year because of the many things I will experience in my 20th year of life.


  1. One of the most important things I have the privilege of understanding at a younger age is life is meant to be lived, cherished, and embraced. There is simply no other way to put it. Life is a gift and we must cherish every moment.
  2. TRAVEL! Whenever you can wherever you can. Save your money. Set goals to visit new places. If this becomes a priority in your life, you will never think of reasons why you can’t travel but instead focus on how to make your next trip a reality.
  3. Negativity has no room in anyone’s life. Easier said than done is what many of you are probably thinking, however, cutting out the negativity from your life can prove to be incredibly enlightening. You begin to focus less on the bad and more on the good.
  4. BE YOURSELF! It is the greatest asset you have, and you should never conform for anyone or anything. Stop comparing yourself, your life, your body, and your face to others. You were created to be uniquely you and have the choice to be the best version of yourself. There is no one like you so you must take care of yourself and love yourself for who you are.
  5. Everything happens for a reason. Call it fate or destiny, but I firmly believe that everything happens for a reason. Whether it be a breakup, a promotion, a setback, or failure, it all happens for a reason. Often times a setback becomes a setup for something greater if you just trust in the process and give it some time. Be willing to have faith that everything will work out the way it is supposed to.
  6. Avoiding stress is actually a lot easier than I thought. Over the past year, I have become extremely relaxed, go-with-the-flow and it’s been incredibly rewarding. Less stress provides more time to focus on the good and the happy.
  7. Always be humble. Be thankful for all you have and never take any of it for granted. Don’t boast about the things you possess in life but rather focus on spreading love and positivity wherever you go.
  8. It’s okay to be selfish…sometimes. Often times I become so focused on taking care of others I forget how emotionally exhausting it can be. When it comes to your health it is so important to take time to focus on yourself instead of others. Taking a personal day, canceling plans, or hunkering down for an evening alone may seem selfish to others but never forget to take care of yourself first.
  9. Embrace your inner child. There is often an urge to grow up or move on to the next phase of life so quickly. The inner child in you is dying to be let out. Resume the things you used to do as a child when you sang in public at the top of your lungs, twirled around the store, and stopped just to watch the butterflies. Learn to not care what others think about because more often than not no one is watching because they are too focused on themselves.
  10. Say “I love you” often. I think this is a phrase that often goes unused and should be overused in the right context.
  11. Not everyone is going to like you and that is OK! I used to consume my time trying to understand why certain people didn’t like me until I realized it didn’t matter who liked me and who didn’t. As long as I was living an honest, authentic life and tried to spread kindness wherever I went that it didn’t matter at all.
  12. You will never regret the things you have done but you will regret the things you didn’t do. Okay well maybe there will be a few things you may regret but overall, I can say with great confidence that I began taking this very seriously this past year. I took risks, went out of my comfort zone and spent money I probably should’ve saved. All of those ended up providing me with some of THE BEST experiences and memories I have ever been able to create.
  13. Carbs are the greatest food ever created. You don’t want to fight me when it comes to my carbs and a big kudos to those who are on carb-free diets.
  14. Be kind to everyone always. This world needs more kindness and it all starts with how each of us interacts and treats those surrounding us.
  15. Say yes to new experiences. When you say yes, the possibilities have the potential to be endless.
  16. Always keep dreaming. Never in my wildest dreams did I think some of my biggest dreams and aspirations would come true, but they did, and I couldn’t be more grateful. Working to make sure your dreams come true to give you something to always look forward to. Never stop dreaming and achieving.
  17. Although I have had little luck with relationships in the realm of dating I strongly believe in the importance of being patient. Being single allows you to focus on yourself and gives you much needed time to better understand who you are and what you want out of this life. It gives you time to do things alone, explore new hobbies and interests and consider your core values and beliefs. I believe it is and will be worth the wait no matter how long it takes, even if I seem quite impatient most of the time.
  18. Water is the greatest drink you will ever find.
  19. Money is best spent on experiences, not things. I ended this summer with exactly $8 in my checking account and that would’ve freaked the old Lexie out, however, I have learned that money is replaceable while memories and experiences are not.
  20. I am slowly learning where my passions lie and beginning to put a great deal of thought and energy into them. Focus on your passions, work your hardest and who knows maybe one day you will be able to turn it into a career.

I am so excited to see what this next year brings me as I head into my twenties optimistic of the great things to come.

Xoxo, Lexie

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